I'd resisted from posting this mini whinge last week, cos I'm trying to be more positive and whine less, but damnit(!), I'm annoyed again!
Over the last few weeks, we've posted and handed out a bunch of save the dates. Ok, by the nature of a save the date, you don't really need to respond, but I'm super upset at how many of my family and friends haven't bothered to call, write, tweet, text, facebook...whatever to say 'hey, thanks! How awesome that we're going to be invited to your wedding!' I can recall about five people who've made the effort to let me know they received it and say thanks. Sure, all the people who we've given them to in person have been super excited and that's awesome.
In my opinion, being invited to someone's wedding is a huge honour. By getting a save the date, you are being told you're getting an invite. By being invited, we are asking you to share the biggest day of our lives with us. When weddings cost so much money and headcounts are often restricted by venues, it's super hard to decide who to invite and who not to invite. So it really hurts when people who have 'made the cut' don't just let me know they received theirs and are excited or happy about it.
The main bulk of our guests are family. The vast majority of them have already had their save the dates. For my own family to more or less ignore the honour of being invited, well... that really sucks. Just cos you're family, doesn't guarantee you an invite. So please, just say thank you!
And for friends to not say anything, hurts maybe a teeny bit more. We've not invited that many friends (we don't have the room to and I don't have that many), so it makes me feel pretty crap. The crazy part of my brain (which I increasingly find I need to surpress) says 'am I labouring under some pretence that these people are really my friends? Am I that crazy person who thinks she's still friends with these people?'
I try not to let stuff like this get to me and try to be happy Sam. But I've been trying to surpress this sadness for a while now and it had to come out at some point. The fact that I'm home alone and feeling pretty miserable probably has something to do with it.
I just needed to get that out there. I don't care that my guests (probably) won't see this, I'm hoping I will feel a little better about it now that I've got it off my chest.